Valentine’s Day is upon us and it got me thinking about what romance means to us as we get older. When we’re younger, romance is all about grand gestures, jewellary and flowers. Several years of marriage, a mortgage and a couple of children later, many couples are content with dinner and a movie on Valentine’s Day, while someone watches the babies. Some might say that it sounds like they’re settling, that the spark is gone, but is it really? I think it all comes down to what romance means to each of us. Doing the dishes when your spouse has had a stressful day or getting the kids to bed early so that you can spend quality time together can be much more romantic than flowers and chocolate once a year. I think romance redefines itself as we go through different stages in our lives. It is nice that there is a special day dedicated to love, but I think that true romance is in the little kindnesses you show each other every day.
Ashley Manning nominated me for this award and I would like to say a big thank you to him. You can find him at ashleymanning.com.
According to the rules I now have to state eleven random facts about me, so here goes:
1. I was born in Germany.
2. I am fluent in five languages.
3. Growing up, I had an assortment of pets: five dogs, six pairs of homing pigeons, a hamster, two mynah birds, two rabbits, two baby ducklings and a cat that thought it owned me.
4. I love to dance.
5. I finally worked up the courage to sing in front of people, so now I am a huge fan of Karaoke.
6. I have lived in five different countries on three continents.
7. I love sushi.
8. I love watching Merlin with my family.
9. I love dogs.
10. I’ve always wanted to be tall.
11. I would love to travel back in time, but I also want to know what the future will be like.
Now for the questions from Ashley :
- What is your favourite book? There are so many, but my favourite one a few years ago was The Time Traveler’s Wife.
- What is the worst book you’ve ever read? I really can’t think of one that would qualify as the worst.
- Do you think Crash Bandicoot is awesome? Had to google this one. I don’t play video games, so I have no opinion on this one.
- What is your favourite genre? Fantasy Romance at the moment, but I also love anything historical.
- Do you have any hobbies? Karaoke.
- Do you like Poetry? Not really.
- PS3 or Xbox? Neither.
- Do you still buy CDs? No.
- Which is better – A purple dog with an apple on it’s head or a cow with a giraffe’s neck? Since my favourite colour is purple, I have to go with the dog.
- Have you, or do you want to read Uylsses and why? Haven’t read it yet, but it’s on my list. Why? Because it is one of those books that should be read.
- Do you find it as hard to write 11 random questions? I’m about to find out.
Now the questions for my nominations:
1. Why did you start blogging?
2. If you could come back as anyone else, who would it be and why?
3. Who did you most want to be like as a child?
4. Who is your favourite character from a book?
5. What do you like to write about?
6. What country would you most like to visit?
7. What kind of music do you enjoy the most?
8. Do you like the feeling of holding a book in your hands or do you prefer e-readers?
9. During which part of the day are you most productive?
10. If you could have any superpower, which would it be?
11. How did you feel when you were nominated for this award?
And here are my nominations:
Thank you so much for reading.
I recently decided to hire a freelance editor for my manuscript, so that I could get started on my revisions. The process was not as difficult as I thought it would be. I simply went to the Canadian Editors Association website and looked for listings that mentioned YA fiction and sent off requests for estimates. A few days later I found someone that seemed to be a good fit and we got started immediately. I was mostly worried whether the editor would understand exactly where I was coming from. In the numerous emails we exchanged, I tried to explain what it was that I most needed his help on. When I first started looking online, I learned quite a few things. There is quite a confusing array of editing services available and some of them overlap. In addition, they can be quite expensive. So if you don’t do your research and fail to ask the right questions, you may end up paying for a service you didn’t really need. In the end you have to be clear about what it is that you need from the editor and make sure that they know it as well, so that there is no room for misunderstanding. If you’re lucky you will find somebody who gets your writing and will help make it the best it can be.
I have always been fascinated by the concept of reincarnation. The idea that you can be born over and over again is intriguing. Imagine being alive at different times in the history of our civilization. Would we have memories from all those lives buried deep in the recesses of our minds? Or would we start each new life with a clean slate, perhaps a chance for a do-over? And if we are not aware of it, would we do anything differently, or are we doomed to repeat our mistakes in one life after another? In my novel, Realm of the Goddess, reincarnation is a central theme. Here is a quote from the Prologue:
“Wherever evil rears its head, there I shall be reborn
to crush greed and corruption in its womb
I shall arise again and again.”
I like the idea of second chances, maybe even third and fourth ones. It gives us hope that we can ultimately overcome our failings, some of our wrongdoings and have another go at being better versions of ourselves.
I am wondering how long one should wait for traditional publishing to work out before deciding to self publish. Or is self publishing no longer the other option, but rather the first choice? From all the blogs and Facebook pages and articles out there, I feel that I want to be in control of where this journey takes me, rather than wait and hope for someone to tell me that they will give my writing a chance. I felt elated when I finally finished typed the last words of my novel. It wasn’t easy getting there, so it was a big accomplishment for me. So should I allow someone else to take that away from me or should I take destiny into my own hands and see where it leads?